Important, Not Personal: Enrollment Then And Now
A year after “Filling This School Might Kill Me,” Amber returns to enrollment for The School for Humaning Well® and finds it playful, restorative, and open. The difference is living the understanding that enrollment is important, not personal. Amber felt the old gripping in the body, met it directly, and saw how the “me” makes everything personal. The article explores what changes when a business belongs to Life rather than to a separate self, and offers coaches a short practice for feeling that shift. It closes with today’s last call for the Pre-School Gathering Sessions. Read now.
Same World—A New Way Of Seeing
Amber shares the story of a graduate of the first cohort of The School for Humaning Well®. Before the school, she feared that one more program would only leave her feeling more broken. Now she says she doesn’t see or hear the world in the same way. Instead of fixing or reframing her long-held story of “broken,” they turned toward it with an open heart. She came to recognize it as conditioning rather than truth, and the pattern lessened on its own. Amber then invites readers to notice the patterns and preoccupations their own minds keep circling, and to consider whether a new way of seeing would serve them. The issue closes with an invitation to the January cohort, limited to 14 students and likely the last held in Los Angeles. It also notes the Pre-School Gathering Sessions for those who enroll by October 31. Read more now...
The Exploration Most Coaches Miss
Most coaching training focuses on tips, tricks and building a successful identity. In this piece, I share how becoming a “good, successful coach” brought money and skill, along with constant comparison, an inability to rest and an anxiety I couldn’t yet see. About two and a half years ago, that identification began to crumble. I’m still a coach doing the same work, but the grip has loosened, leaving more space to feel life’s nudges and follow them. Inspired by my recent conversation with Amy Johnson and Dan Kelso, this is an invitation to look beyond the “me” we keep rebuilding and to recognize that life has been doing us all along. Read now.
What Letting Go of a Dream House Revealed
When Amber’s husband brought up moving this year, her initial reaction was grief—denial, anger, negotiating, boxes of tissues. Underneath it all was fear: of failure, of what others would think, of never feeling as successful as she did inside those walls. What happened next surprised her. In staying with the experience and following the fear all the way home, a voice arrived: This isn’t your home. It’s time to deepen in your true home. In this piece, Amber explores how our suffering isn’t caused by circumstance—but by the stories and attachments we’ve innocently identified with, and what becomes available when those are seen through and released. Read more now...
Maybe In The Next Life
What if the transformation you've been looking for isn't found in the next goal, the next achievement, or the next version of yourself—but in something quieter altogether? In this piece, Amber Krzys shares the story of Nicole, a client featured on her upcoming podcast, whose two and a half months of inner work dissolved a lifelong wound of unworthiness—not through affirmations or strategy, but through turning toward direct experience. Nicole's story points to a different way of taking care of ourselves—one that goes beneath the noise, meets what's actually there, and opens us to who we truly are. Read more now...
A Different Way to Lasting Change
What if the pattern your client keeps returning to isn't a sign of failure—but a sign of health? In this piece, Amber explores the profound misunderstanding at the heart of most coaching work: the belief that lasting change is the goal. Through a client story about emotional eating, she illustrates how the behaviors we label as regression are often the system's most intelligent response—a form of self-soothing available at the level of consciousness present in that moment. When coaches stop treating patterns as problems to fix and start bringing compassion and curiosity to them instead, something shifts. The judgments loosen, the underlying material becomes visible, and change happens naturally—not through effort or willpower, but through presence and understanding. Read now.
The Menu Isn’t The Meal
Most of us move through life narrating our experience rather than actually being in it—and we rarely notice. In this piece, Amber Krzys explores the difference between the mind's labels and conclusions and the living reality those labels can never capture. The menu describes the meal, but it can never be the taste. That distinction is at the heart of what opens when we remember direct experience—and it's the territory Dr. Amy Johnson and Dan Kelso will be exploring in a free live conversation on October 13th. Read more now...
What If Commitment Isn’t Everything?
What happens when commitment—one of coaching's most celebrated virtues—quietly becomes a rule? In this piece, Amber explores the moment when giving your word shifts from inspiration to pressure, and how the mind innocently uses structure and intention as a tool for control. Through personal examples from her own practice, she traces the journey from rigidity to a different kind of freedom—one where inspiration leads, life is trusted, and commitment gives way to something simpler and more alive. Read now.
The Power of Staying
In the middle of back-to-back deadlines, a move, a rebrand, and a podcast launch, Amber's body sent a clear message: a crick in the neck that broke the doing spell. What followed—a 3am ceiling stare, an unexpected wave of fear about menopause and the unknown, and a question that cut to the heart of everything—led to one of the most powerful reminders she knows: that staying with our experience, even when it's uncomfortable, is where the real relief lives. This is a piece about self-intimacy, the layers of protection we carry, and what becomes possible when we open our heart to all of it. Read more now...
I Need ___ Now or I’m Not Ok
Most of us have felt it—the urgent, consuming sense that we need something right now or we won't be okay. In this piece, Amber Krzys explores what's actually happening beneath that urgency, why the mind redirects attention toward fulfilling a need rather than feeling what's underneath it, and what becomes possible when we slow down and turn toward the fear instead. Through a client story and the image of a fogged windshield, she points to where the real relief actually lives—and why presence is the only thing that can bring it. Read more now...
Is Insight Enough To Create Real Change?
Is an insight enough to create real change? It depends on how you define it. In this piece, Amber explores the difference between a mental insight—a reframe or concept that clicks—and a full-system insight that shifts everything at once: mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Through two simple examples (a hot stove and the FedEx logo), she illustrates how true insight is experiential and embodied, requiring no management to take hold. And through a personal story about binge eating, she points toward what becomes possible when we stop treating our patterns as problems to solve and start seeing them as messengers—and how that shift alone can change everything. Read now.
Say Yes to Now…Really?
What happens when the t-shirts you made for your 50th birthday celebration in Italy say Trust Life. Say yes to now.—and then life immediately puts that to the test? In this personal reflection, Amber Krzys shares how her husband was sick for the entirety of her milestone trip, and what it looked like to actually practice presence in real time—not as a concept, but as a lived, moment-by-moment choice. A story about love, growth, and discovering that underneath everything, you are whole. Read more now...
Beyond Failure…and Success
Returning from a month-long sabbatical in Italy, Amber expected ease. What arrived instead was a mental onslaught—a backlog of shoulds, criticisms, and judgments centered on one narrow metric: money. In this piece, she traces the journey from that destabilizing return through the attempts to manage it, to a quiet morning meditation and an unexpected teacher—a lime tree in the backyard that doesn't produce fruit. What it revealed about success, worth, and the identity we unknowingly protect is the heart of this reflection. Read now.
Trying To Be Somebody You’re Not
What happens when you finally stop trying to be somebody you're not? In this piece, Amber Krzys traces a lifetime of chasing a different body—tens of thousands of dollars, endless optimization, and one last cellulite treatment that did nothing—until a Ram Dass story about baldness cracked something open. What followed was a radical shift: from fighting reality to accepting it, from black and white to a whole new land of color. This is a piece about the swamp foundation underneath our striving, what's actually waiting on the other side of giving up, and why the experience you've been seeking was never out there to begin with. Read more now...
Stop Chasing Your Goals
What if the goal you've been chasing is already here—just not yet visible? In this piece, Amber explores the hidden cost of pursuit energy: how most business goals are quietly set by the conditioned self from a place of lack, and how that very energy of chasing can keep what we want just out of reach. Through the metaphor of a wave that can't be lacking anything because it's made of ocean, she points toward a different way to play—one rooted in wholeness, expression, and the freedom that comes when we stop trying to get and start showing up to give. Read now.
The Shell-Less Creature: A Lesson In Vulnerability
The most evolved creature on the planet had no shell. In this article, Amber explores what the octopus understands about vulnerability that most of us were never taught—how distorted thinking forms, how life mirrors it back, and why opening your heart toward what hurts is the most direct path back to wholeness. Plus: an invitation to go deeper together this August. Read more now...
The Patterns That Repeat
What pattern keeps showing up in your work—the one you've tried to solve with systems, willpower, and strategies, but it keeps coming back? In this newsletter, I share a client's story of transformation that reveals how the mind tries to solve problems at the same level of consciousness that created them. Through their journey from "I'm not productive enough" to uncovering the deeper pattern of self-preservation through self-abandonment, you'll see what real transformation requires: going beyond thought into felt experience. This is the type of insight that creates radical shift—not because the pattern never returns, but because what was unconscious becomes conscious. And behavior changes naturally with greater clarity, without willpower or force. Read now.
What Getting Hacked Taught Me About Receiving
I was hacked recently—six hours with hackers, but no money lost. Even with that outcome, my system flooded with self-judgment, shame, and embarrassment. In the past, I would have numbed those feelings or believed the self-judgment. This time, I opened my heart to the places that wanted to close—feeling the tightness, the shame underneath. By receiving the experience rather than pushing it away, I connected with the peace that's always present. Since then, the hack hasn't had a hold on me. This is the gift of the open heart: when we receive what is instead of controlling life, the experience moves through and clears. We break free of the mind's labels and connect with the infinite Source of Love—our true nature. This is what I'm teaching in my upcoming workshop, The Gift of the Open Heart: A Weekend of Receiving, August 28-30 in Granada Hills, CA. Read more now...
A Better Way to Achieve
If you're a high achiever conditioned to push and override your feelings, or someone who avoids action waiting for the "right" feeling—this is for you. Fueling on personal will can only last so long before burnout hits. A student recently experienced what her mind labeled "boredom" when she wanted to go outside instead of working—but what if that was wisdom? Overriders don't recognize their body's needs and push through discomfort, while avoiders believe their feelings and wait endlessly. In both cases, meeting the feeling is the antidote—not pushing through it or avoiding it, but turning toward it and letting energy move through the body. This is achieving through receiving: allowing actions to arise from inner alignment rather than force or fear, breaking arbitrary rules, and discovering a better way to achieve sourced from the heart's wisdom instead of the mind's will or resistance. Read more now...
Rebuilding: The Value of Returning to Your Heart
Rebuilding a business can feel like living in a house while renovating it—some days you see progress, other days you feel further from the vision. The trap is waking up every day comparing where you are to where you want to be, which keeps you focused on lack and "not enough." In this newsletter, Amber explores how the mind employs the "someday strategy" (only when I have this will I be okay) and how that gripping energy actually blocks what you're yearning for. The invitation is to return to your pure intention—to remember why you were called to this work—so you can see progress instead of judgment, appreciate where you are now, and align with Life's guidance. When you stay connected to your heart, you become a wide-open receiver for your next inspired move. Read now.