Trying To Be Somebody You’re Not
What happens when you finally stop trying to be somebody you're not? In this piece, Amber Krzys traces a lifetime of chasing a different body—tens of thousands of dollars, endless optimization, and one last cellulite treatment that did nothing—until a Ram Dass story about baldness cracked something open. What followed was a radical shift: from fighting reality to accepting it, from black and white to a whole new land of color. This is a piece about the swamp foundation underneath our striving, what's actually waiting on the other side of giving up, and why the experience you've been seeking was never out there to begin with. Read more now...
Stop Chasing Your Goals
What if the goal you've been chasing is already here—just not yet visible? In this piece, Amber explores the hidden cost of pursuit energy: how most business goals are quietly set by the conditioned self from a place of lack, and how that very energy of chasing can keep what we want just out of reach. Through the metaphor of a wave that can't be lacking anything because it's made of ocean, she points toward a different way to play—one rooted in wholeness, expression, and the freedom that comes when we stop trying to get and start showing up to give. Read now.
The Shell-Less Creature: A Lesson In Vulnerability
The most evolved creature on the planet had no shell. In this article, Amber explores what the octopus understands about vulnerability that most of us were never taught—how distorted thinking forms, how life mirrors it back, and why opening your heart toward what hurts is the most direct path back to wholeness. Plus: an invitation to go deeper together this August. Read more now...
The Patterns That Repeat
What pattern keeps showing up in your work—the one you've tried to solve with systems, willpower, and strategies, but it keeps coming back? In this newsletter, I share a client's story of transformation that reveals how the mind tries to solve problems at the same level of consciousness that created them. Through their journey from "I'm not productive enough" to uncovering the deeper pattern of self-preservation through self-abandonment, you'll see what real transformation requires: going beyond thought into felt experience. This is the type of insight that creates radical shift—not because the pattern never returns, but because what was unconscious becomes conscious. And behavior changes naturally with greater clarity, without willpower or force. Read now.
What Getting Hacked Taught Me About Receiving
I was hacked recently—six hours with hackers, but no money lost. Even with that outcome, my system flooded with self-judgment, shame, and embarrassment. In the past, I would have numbed those feelings or believed the self-judgment. This time, I opened my heart to the places that wanted to close—feeling the tightness, the shame underneath. By receiving the experience rather than pushing it away, I connected with the peace that's always present. Since then, the hack hasn't had a hold on me. This is the gift of the open heart: when we receive what is instead of controlling life, the experience moves through and clears. We break free of the mind's labels and connect with the infinite Source of Love—our true nature. This is what I'm teaching in my upcoming workshop, The Gift of the Open Heart: A Weekend of Receiving, August 28-30 in Granada Hills, CA. Read more now...
A Better Way to Achieve
If you're a high achiever conditioned to push and override your feelings, or someone who avoids action waiting for the "right" feeling—this is for you. Fueling on personal will can only last so long before burnout hits. A student recently experienced what her mind labeled "boredom" when she wanted to go outside instead of working—but what if that was wisdom? Overriders don't recognize their body's needs and push through discomfort, while avoiders believe their feelings and wait endlessly. In both cases, meeting the feeling is the antidote—not pushing through it or avoiding it, but turning toward it and letting energy move through the body. This is achieving through receiving: allowing actions to arise from inner alignment rather than force or fear, breaking arbitrary rules, and discovering a better way to achieve sourced from the heart's wisdom instead of the mind's will or resistance. Read more now...
Rebuilding: The Value of Returning to Your Heart
Rebuilding a business can feel like living in a house while renovating it—some days you see progress, other days you feel further from the vision. The trap is waking up every day comparing where you are to where you want to be, which keeps you focused on lack and "not enough." In this newsletter, Amber explores how the mind employs the "someday strategy" (only when I have this will I be okay) and how that gripping energy actually blocks what you're yearning for. The invitation is to return to your pure intention—to remember why you were called to this work—so you can see progress instead of judgment, appreciate where you are now, and align with Life's guidance. When you stay connected to your heart, you become a wide-open receiver for your next inspired move. Read now.
Which Mountain Are You Climbing?
A reader shared The Second Mountain by David Brooks with me, and it articulates a framework I've been living into for years. There are two mountains in life: the first is built on success, achievement, and "reputation management"—where our energy gets consumed by thoughts of "me" and how others perceive us. Eventually we reach the bottom through success that feels hollow, failure, or an unexpected blow. There we choose: stay in the valley or begin climbing the second mountain. George Land's NASA creativity study revealed that 98% of children test as creative geniuses, but only 2% of adults do—we learned self-consciousness and reputation management. The first mountain is built on the bound self (constrained by fear, personality, conditions) and suffering. The second is built on the unbound self (connected to heart, creativity, joy). Having a mission doesn't automatically mean you're on the second mountain—I thought I was there with bodyheart and coaching, but I was still leading from control, not flow. It's about where you're leading from inside yourself. Read more now...
Trusting the Mind vs. Trusting Inspiration
What's the difference between inspired action and following a formula? After seeing Project Hail Mary, I reflected on how the mind takes something alive—like genuinely reaching out to a former client—and flattens it into a mechanical strategy that loses all its magic. In this newsletter, I explore the pattern of "flattening" that happens when coaches reverse-engineer success instead of listening for what's truly inspired. Through real examples (mass messaging strangers, inviting people to events from "get" mode), I show how mind-driven action feels like grinding while inspired action feels like flow—even when it's challenging. The invitation: pause before you act this week and ask, "Is this inspired, or is my mind trying to manufacture inspiration?" Read now.
When Trying Harder Makes Things Worse
In this 13-minute Office Hours clip from The School for Humaning Well, I share what happened when I got caught in a tizzy about my endocrinologist—fighting in my mind, trying to control the outcome. When I dropped into my body during meditation, I discovered I wasn't angry, I was scared. My mind was trying to protect me from painful past experiences happening again. This unscripted teaching explores the difference between the masculine approach (force, control, make it happen) and the feminine approach (allow, receive, trust) to awakening—and why trying harder to feel peaceful often makes it worse. Key insights include: why slowing down is radical in a fast-moving world, why we can't force ourselves to access peace, what's really underneath the fight, how expanding our capacity means we don't have to control anything, and why the feminine path of allowing works where forcing fails. Read more now...
Right-Sizing Your Business: A Tale of Three Clients
Is your business right-sized for your life, or is it consuming 80% of your energy—or drifting with only 10% of your attention? In this newsletter, I share my own journey from being driven by unconscious beliefs about needing power and status to feel safe, to finding the freedom of aligning with Life's intelligence. Through three client stories, I illustrate what becomes possible when we see the inner hooks driving us and compassionately right-size our business: one client who worked less and earned more, another who honored a new life season with grace, and a third who moved from mental spinning to grounded action. When we stop managing our image to feel safe, we create space for presence, play, and the business we actually want. Read now.
Embarrassing? Yes. Worth sharing? 100%!
At a silent retreat, I found myself deeply uncomfortable and stuck in a mental storm—my mind immediately creating elaborate strategies to fix the problem. But when I got curious and dropped into my body, I discovered something deeper than the surface discomfort: layer by layer, I uncovered preferences, patterns, and ultimately the core belief that I needed to "do things right" to be safe. When I met the experience without the mind's interpretation—just sensation itself—I found the inherent safety that doesn't depend on external conditions. The fear dissolved, my system relaxed, and the issue resolved naturally within an hour. This is about what happens when we stop fighting our experience and meet it with presence instead, discovering layer by layer that we were always okay.Read more now...
$0 Billing Months and Dry Spells
What if the dry spells, the $0 months, and the prospects who say no aren't problems to fix — but invitations to turn inward? In this article, Amber Krzys reflects on her own journey from following every strategy to the letter to discovering a deeper way of working and living — and shares a coaching exchange that illustrates exactly what that shift looks like in practice. Read now.
What Five Days of Silence Revealed
Five days. No talking. No phone. No music. Just silence. Amber Krzys shares what her first silent retreat revealed—including the patterns that showed up, what dissolved, and the profound peace that's been with her ever since. Plus, she’s hosting a free live gathering for anyone who feels called to explore this work. Read more now...
Are You Overlooking the Transformation You Most Want?
One student in The School for Humaning Well experienced something profound: for the first time in years, she felt truly settled—even in the middle of chaos. But her mind tried to convince her it was apathy. This is what most people miss: the mind thinks it knows what calm feels like, so it stops exploring. But thinking about a settled state and feeling one are worlds apart. When you finally experience what regulation actually feels like, everything changes—not because you've fixed yourself, but because you've remembered your natural state. Read more now...
The Sweet Spot of “Yes”
Are you more rigid or flexible in your coaching practice? Whether you follow formulas to a T or constantly adapt on the fly, both extremes can leave money on the table. In this newsletter, Amber shares a recent enrollment blind spot where her rigidity almost cost her a client she really wanted to work with—and the simple shift that changed everything: looking for the sweet spot of "yes." When you're comfortable both holding your fee and adjusting it, you can attune to what will be of highest service in the moment. Where do you fall on the scale? Read now.
When the Body Speaks…
This newsletter introduces Part Two of Why We Turn Away, focusing on how the body communicates when something doesn’t feel safe or aligned. It explores the role of the nervous system in shaping our reactions, the mind’s instinct to manage discomfort, and how physical or emotional symptoms can serve as meaningful feedback rather than obstacles—pointing us back toward presence, safety, and wholeness. Read more now...
The Five A’s of Enrollment
This article introduces The Five A’s of Enrollment—a grounded, intuitive framework for inviting clients into your work in a way that honors your truth and theirs. It’s not about following a script or offering free sessions to “prove” your value. It’s about attunement, alignment, and letting your inner wisdom guide the process. Whether you’re a coach or a human navigating your next evolution, this approach offers a more spacious, embodied path to connection, clarity, and integrity. Read now.
Why We Turn Away…
This article explores the innocence of why we turn away from uncomfortable experiences—and how early conditioning taught us to rely on the mind to fix, manage, or avoid what feels unsafe. Drawing from the launch of The School for Humaning Well, it offers a different orientation: understanding how the nervous system shapes our thinking, emotions, and moment-to-moment experience, and what becomes possible when we stop trying to eliminate discomfort and instead learn to meet it with presence. Read more now...
Top-Down vs. Bottom-Up Enrollment
This newsletter explores the difference between top-down and bottom-up approaches to enrollment. It highlights how traditional methods often rely on the mind making logical decisions based on free coaching sessions, while a bottom-up approach invites a felt sense of alignment, rooted in presence, safety, and embodied knowing. Readers are encouraged to reflect on what feels most true in their current season of work—without judgment, and with permission to evolve. Read now.