After the Holiday…
Photo by Rosemary Williams via Unsplash.
If you celebrated this week, I hope your holiday held moments of warmth and gratitude.
You may have also felt a mix of irritation, tenderness, awkwardness, exhaustion, sweetness, or sorrow too. That's ok. These tend to surface when we gather with family.
That's the thing about being human—
we don't get one note.
We get the whole symphony.
And that's actually good news—especially when you know how to welcome your experience as it is. (If you'd like to explore this further, join me for the last School for Humaning Well Guest Faculty webinar with Rohini Ross.)
If you're feeling a little wobbly, scattered, rushed, or off-center today, I have something that may support you.
I shared a reel on Instagram about a recent experience where my clothes didn't fit. Jeans I bought a few months ago were suddenly too tight—and that sent my mind into a spiral.
In the video, I talk about the profound shift that happened when I stopped falling for the mind's distraction tactics and instead turned toward my fear of being worthless, unattractive, and having no value.
⟶ You can watch the 3-minute clip here.
Why I'm sharing this with you:
You don't need tight jeans to have this kind of moment.
Any of these can trigger a similar pattern:
a strange comment from a family member
seeing a photo of yourself
noticing someone else's success
your house being messier than you'd like
feeling misunderstood around the dinner table
waking up today feeling “behind” for no clear reason
The content doesn't matter.
The pattern does.
When shame, fear, insecurity, or worthlessness arise, your system is simply saying: “Something tender is here. Will you stay with me?”
And when you meet the feeling instead of fighting it, the cycle completes.
The story loses its grip.
And you remember:
You're not the feeling.
You're the one it's moving through.
This is the heart of humaning well—
realigning with your true nature, the you that hasn't changed.
The you that's been here since the moment you were born.
Touching into that direct experience clears your perception every time.
And what's beautiful is: this place is always available.
It's who we truly are.
If today feels a little tender, go slow.
Place a hand on your heart.
Let your system know you're here.
That's enough.
With loving,
Amber
PS: In the spirit of sharing reels, I have another fantastic one for you! The oh-so-honest and wise, Rohini Ross speaks about how she used self-improvement as a strategy to escape feeling anxious and insecure—and what opened up when she stopped trying to “fix” herself and simply met her experience as it was. A profound sense of enoughness showed up.
⟶ You can watch that reel here.
If you resonate with it, you'll love next week's webinar: Being with Life as It Is: The Portal to Freedom.
Join us for free here. The replay will be shared afterward.
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