What Trump’s Words Reveal About The Ego
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Before I begin, I want to acknowledge this may be a charged topic. If you notice yourself feeling activated, it's okay to set this aside and come back to it later when you feel more settled. Take care of yourself first.
The President of the United States gave a speech this week to military leaders where he said we are under “invasion from within,” pointing to cities like San Francisco, Chicago, New York, and Los Angeles as unsafe places.
I've lived in Los Angeles for 20 years. I have never felt unsafe here. There aren't riots in the streets. People aren't at war with one another. Are there challenges? Of course. What major city (or any city) doesn't have them? But the picture painted in that speech, the media, and online is not reality.
And this is what I want to speak to.
The Truth Matters
We live in a time when truth is harder to find. Narratives get twisted to suit an agenda, and it's important that we pause and question what's being fed to us. Just because something is said loudly, or with authority, does not make it true.
When Pain Goes Unmet
For me, Trump's words about an “invasion from within” are, in a way, accurate. Not in the physical world as he thinks—but within himself. He is a living example of what happens when we don't meet our pain, when it festers and begins to run our lives from the shadows.
Unmet pain grows into anger, resentment, righteousness, blame, and power obsession.
The ego believes safety exists out there, so it tries to control everything and everyone that doesn't fit its view. That's a fragile way to live, because only a narrow set of circumstances feel safe. Everything else becomes a threat.
This means negative feelings like shame, guilt, humiliation, and despair must be avoided at all costs—because they feel too terrifying to handle. Manipulation, control, and deceit step in to protect from the pain. And, this unconscious pattern plays out over and over.
If this pain is left unchecked…well, we are seeing the results of it in real time.
The truth is that we all do this in smaller ways—often unconsciously:
Trying to manage our kids' behavior so we can feel like good parents
Bending over backward for clients so we can feel successful
Saying yes when we want to say no to avoid conflict
Dropping hints for validation instead of asking directly for what we need
Each of these is the ego's attempt to maintain control, to keep its identity intact. Anything that threatens that identity must be managed, resisted, or fought.
This is what Trump is doing on a grand scale. He and his administration are an extreme example of what happens when pain goes unmet.
The Call Back to Us
I don't know what will inspire our current leaders to turn their attention away from external power and toward their people—and even their own tender hearts. But I do know this: we can't wait for them to figure it out.
We have to begin here, with ourselves.
If you're feeling fear, anger, or despair right now—that makes sense. These are not normal times. But if you don't turn toward those feelings, they will harden into identity. You'll find yourself living in reaction, managing your experience just to avoid what doesn't feel safe.
The invitation is simple (though not always easy): meet your upset. Drop beneath the story in your mind and into the sensations in your body. Let the energy move. As you do, you release the pressure, come back to your heart, and open to compassion.
(You can find a step-by-step feeling process to follow inside The Live Your Best Day Today Guide—see pages 15-17. You can get access to it here.)
From that place, you'll know what action—if any—is yours to take. And that action will be inspired by wisdom, not fear.
Why This Matters
Trump's words, and the way he moves through the world, reveal what happens when someone cannot face their pain. They lash out. They grasp for control. They bully.
To be clear: I don't condone his behavior. I am not in alignment with his administration. And, because of the work I've done within myself, I can see his actions as those of someone deeply wounded and afraid. That doesn't excuse him, but it helps me keep my heart open. And when I forget—when I find myself in anger or fear triggered by his actions—I come back to myself. I meet the feeling and look for the projection, so I can once again drop into the peace available within.
That's what I believe is being asked of us: to lead ourselves first. To turn within before we turn without. To build the resilience to meet our own pain, so that we can respond with wisdom and compassion, rather than reaction and fear.
This is how new systems rooted in wholeness will come into being.
This moment we are living in—and, hopefully, through—is significant and intense. Take care of yourself. Don't expect to release your pain, or change how you see our leaders or yourself, overnight. If you're dysregulated, tend to that first. Listen for your wisdom—it always knows how to help you settle. Then, when you're ready, you can drop deeper.
This is the most courageous and loving act you can take.
The heroes of these times won't be our elected officials.
They will be you and me.
With loving,
Amber
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