Introducing…The School for Humaning Well
Photo by Courtney Lindberg.
I've been hinting at a new inspiration that's taken hold of my being. Something that doesn't feel like it belongs to me, but instead feels like it belongs to the world—especially in this wild, tender time we're living in.
Today is the day I let you in on that project!
And before you scroll ahead for the big reveal, I highly recommend reading this entire email. The story below highlights some of what's possible—and available—inside the school. (Yes…I said school!)
For a few months, I'd been thinking about getting an Oura ring. So many of my friends and clients raved about it, so I decided to go for it. The day it arrived, I was so excited. I couldn't wait to open the box and set it up.
Unfortunately, that process didn't go so well. The ring wouldn't sync, and once it finally did, it kept disconnecting from Bluetooth.
Not the experience I was expecting—which is fine. But here's where the story gets good…
I went to contact the company through their website, only to discover: no email address. No phone number. Just a chatbot.
Seeing that set me off.
How can a company charge $500 for a product and not have a human available? Is this where we're heading—bots over empathy and connection? Will I be able to figure this out on my own?
My righteousness was on fire. And it only intensified as I sat for twenty minutes waiting for the bot to connect me with a real person. I got so frustrated that I ended the chat, fired off a sharp message on Instagram and went for a walk.
I was so angry. Overly so. The situation didn't match the level of upset I was experiencing—and that got my attention.
As I slowed down on the walk, I tuned in. I met my direct experience. Within moments, disappointment surfaced. And, I let it be there. It felt uncomfortable, but I allowed it move.
Then something deeper showed up.
A fear of being alone. Helpless. Out of control.
That's what the anger was protecting. This is what my ego didn't want me to feel.
Because that “all alone” feeling wasn't new. It tracked back to a childhood experience where I truly was helpless and alone. A moment too overwhelming for my young nervous system to process—so it clamped shut. That's what our systems do. They protect us.
But when those feelings don't get to release, they stay trapped inside. Waiting for a moment when it feels safe enough to rise and be felt. And that moment doesn't come through pushing past or blaming others. It only comes through softening. Deepening your grounding. Making space to feel what got locked away.
That's what I gave myself that day on the sidewalk, walking my dog. My voice whimpered. Tears came. And I released a layer of terror I hadn't realized I'd been carrying.
I don't know how many times my system chose blame and anger over the years, just to avoid feeling that fear. Hundreds… maybe thousands. And that's okay. Even then, I was doing my best. I didn't have the inner safety I do now.
But this time—I saw it. Felt it. And let it go.
What followed was a wave of compassion and open-heartedness. From that place, I returned to the Oura team and responded differently. I apologized for my earlier tone and shared my honest experience of disappointment—without blame.
Their reply? Kind. Human. Open.
By opening to my empathy, they opened to theirs.
This was such a small, seemingly insignificant moment… and yet, it revealed so much. Because this is what's happening all the time—inside of us. These unconscious protective patterns run quietly in the background, shaping our choices, our reactions, our relationships.
That day, I didn't need a new mindset or three-step process to feel better. I didn't need to “do” anything. I just needed to slow down enough to feel what was true—and let that truth move through.
If you've been following my writing, you know this past year and a half has been a season of unraveling, healing, and deepening. My understanding of life—and our human experience—has evolved immensely. And life has gotten richer, freer, and more enjoyable because of it.
My capacity to meet myself and see what's happening underneath the surface has expanded. I'm no longer run by the same automatic patterns. I still have them, of course. But now, I see them more consistently. And in that seeing, I can choose differently. I can feel instead of react. I can open instead of shut down. And from that place… I respond with far more compassion and clarity.
What's wild is that the peace, ease, and freedom I thought I had to earn or find—they've been here all along. I just couldn't access them while stuck in the grip of unconscious protection.
Nature doesn't suffer for weeks, months, or years. It doesn't create stories about being unworthy or unsafe. It doesn't hold grudges and seek revenge. It just responds to what is. We are part of Nature. We have that same ability. It's just that somewhere along the way, many of us learned to live in our heads—in imagination, in identities we didn't consciously choose. And it takes time—and tenderness—to come back to what's real.
I don't say that from a place of theory. I say it from lived experience. And that's why I created The School for Humaning Well.
It's a six-month journey designed to help you slow down, soften control, and unhook from the fear-based patterns running your life—so you can live with more presence, compassion, and grounded freedom.
The School runs January through June 2026, and is limited to just 20 participants.
It includes three in-person weekends in Los Angeles, three virtual weekends, weekly office hours, monthly presence partner practices, and a whole lot of honest, heart-led transformation.
This isn't about fixing yourself. It's about freeing yourself.
If something in your being is lighting up—I invite you to take a look.
Even reading through the page may stir something awake.
Explore The School for Humaning Well here.
With loving,
Amber
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